Ok, so I will first start with an update on my weight! I lost 2 lbs last week and stayed the same this week! Yay! I didn’t gain! Yippie! Doin the dance of joy! 🙂 I do know why I stayed this week instead of losing…I ate salty snacky things, then slipped in the tub and couldn’t work out because I couldn’t breathe deeply due to my ribs hurting from this slip, mixed with eating salty stuff that I knew would make me bloat! I so get on my own nerves sometimes! lol
Now, on to the subject of the title. I had someone on facebook this week talk about leaving their local church because of the people there and refuses to go to any church because of people in general. In reading all of her posts, it appears that what is really behind this, is that she was the church secretary, a new pastor came in and took away the privileges she had under the last pastor. Instead of being a faithful servant of the Lord, she continued to do the things the old pastor had her doing, and she was fired for “trying to take over for the new pastor.”
I would imagine, like any person, she was mad, but it appears that her gossiping and venting of this situation, had many people coming to her and quoting Bible verses at her in an effort to make her stop. Being the defiant one she seems to now be, she didn’t take the advise of the many who approached her, but instead used their attempts to keep her on the straight path, as an excuse to leave the church.
Now, let me tell you what happens to someone who is defiant and leaves the church blaming others… it leads to downfall. It leads to thinking you need to fit into places and with people who talk down about people of faith. It leads to not watching what you say. It leads to not caring what you do that is not lined up with your past faith. It leads to destruction of your life to the point of either dying in depression or anxiety or being the prodigal child (meaning going to excess on not being like you were while in the faith), and losing everything, then having to crawl back to the Lord in shame and repentance.
How do I know this? Because I was just like that person! You see, when you decide to sin and not care about it, you do things that you never would have thought you’d ever do. You don’t have the voice of God leading you daily through studying the Word of God or going to Bible studies or going to services to kick you back into shape. And the most common thing you say to not feel guilty is, “I can be a believer without attending a church!” A lie from the pit of hell by the way! You do things that you would never have considered when you were going to church.
Now, what a person has to realize in this temptation to leave the church (and yes, this is a temptation lead by Satan himself), is that Satan never gives you the full picture! He doesn’t tell you that he was just at the throne of God, accusing you as a believer and telling God, “If I do this…then they will not follow you” (Job 1:9-11). Then he goes down and whispers the temptation into your ear over and over and over and over again and continues until you do what he is suggesting, or you tell him “I am a child of God and you are not welcome here! Get Out!” Then you turn to the Lord and admit your wrongs and repent of them and continue to serve him with an open and faithful heart.
Satan doesn’t tell you that if you do what he is whispering, you will lose your family, your children will learn ungodly ways of doing things, your children may some day despise you and want nothing to do with you, your children may become so depressed that they attempt suicide or that you may lose everything you have and be left standing alone with no one there to love you and to help you.
It is then, when you are at the lowest of lows, that you may listen to more lies from Satan who is saying, “See there is no hope, God doesn’t love you! You should just end it!” It is hopefully at that time when you lay on your face before the God of mercy and grace and repent of your wrongs instead of listening to the enemy of your soul and taking your own life, or drinking, or taking drugs, or losing all hope. You see, what Satan doesn’t tell you is that when you do what he suggests, he then goes before God and mocks you and accuses you of being fake and useless! He tells you how awesome the sin will be, but will never tell you the consequences to your life here on earth or to your eternal life. If you die before repentance, you will spend eternity in the place God prepared only for Satan and his demons, of which, Satan decided to take with him as many of God’s people he can to get back at God for banning him from heaven when he was the defiant one trying to dethrone God.
I myself fell for his lies. I was delivered from destructive feelings and thoughts due to an abusive past, I was redeemed! Then, instead of seeking out the Lord the way I should have, I didn’t go to Bible studies, read God’s word daily, pray, seek God’s will for my life. I played the church game, did the things I should do, got involved in things, and was constantly ignored and overlooked, which fed my feelings of not fitting in, being worthless and a mistake. If I would have sought the Lord with all I was, He would have shown me the way. Instead, I got lost in my own lustful thought, imagining a world where I would be appreciated, people would tell me how good I was, imagining men would want me and cherish me. This led to having an open marriage, divorce, scarring my kids so deeply that I rarely see them now, living in poverty, being desperate every day. Following Satan’s temptations lead to destruction, not my fantasy…his whispered fantasy.
Then, when my husband left me for a woman he was with in the open marriage, and rejecting my kids, so they lived with me on $547 per month, I still didn’t get it! I sought out worldly men to date, then swore off men for life because of how terrible they were! It was then that I met my husband of today and God led us both into a dark place of medical issues, me almost dying, which is what caused my short-term memory loss. It was then that the Lord began to lead me back and brought my husband with me. Two years after having Encephalitis and losing my memory, God led us to our church where we both accepted the Lord, me returning, my husband for the first time. It was then that I could see the truth of the past. It was then that I could see how I had listened to the enemy’s prompting and had lost everything I had. I made a commitment with God that this time, I would not play games, but that I would be completely honest in all things, even if people didn’t want to hear it and mocked me, that I would tell the honest truth and seek God daily. I would not listen to those in church who were degrading and condemning. I would only turn to God for my direction and not allow the opinions of man/woman to lead my mind, heart, feelings, future, soul, spirit! It was then that I committed to seeking out godly direction, especially if I was having lustful thoughts. I now have four support people who mince no words when I’m in the wrong, whom I go to and listen to what they say, because they back all up in the Word of God. What you see on this blog is what you will get standing face-to-face with me. I play no games! I only allow the truth in the Bible (66 books), because then I will keep myself on the narrow path.
So, does my church have all truthful people dedicated to doing the will of God in it? I do have to say that there are MANY who walk into church doors every week, who walk out with no regard for the Word of God, they go for appearance sake, so they can look holy…you know, the hypocrites. What these people don’t realize is this, every thought they have, every action they take, every intention they have, every nasty talk they participate in or nasty thoughts that they think about others, every person they hurt or help, every lustful thought they think, say, do or act on, is seen and recorded by God. So a person going to church and acting like they are believers, then walking out the door and acting like they are resident of hell, will some day be revealed to all the world and rejected entrance to God’s kingdom. It talks of this multitudes of times in Scripture. Sneaking around is only good to our human friends and family, but God sees it all! That’s why we have to be on our knees constantly repenting for being so defiant…at least that’s what I have to do!
So that leads me to this, there are many hypocrites in church! What a surprise! If you are not one of them, its your job (mine too) to be praying for these people who think they are fooling everyone else. If needed, they do have to be approached and talked to about their behaviors and shown how they aren’t lining up with the Word of God. If they don’t listen, then you take someone else with you to confront that person again. If that doesn’t work, you take them before the church. If they refuse to change, they are to be (for a lack of a better term) kicked out or backs turned on, but if they realize their wrongs and come back and confess their wrongs, they are to be forgiven and let back in. Is this me saying this? Nope! Not me! It is actually instructed by Jesus Himself in Matthew 18:15-17, “15 “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. 16 But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ 17 If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector” (biblegateway.com, NIV). These verses are in red, which represents anything that Jesus says in the Bible.
So, those who did approach this woman, did it the way they were supposed to do it, and the pastor firing her was the appropriate action for someone being defiant. So here’s the problem. Some who are defiant are type A’s who think their way is the only way to do things and if it wasn’t for them, nothing would get done! Then you have a new pastor walk in and change how everything is done, and this causes a major breakdown in a type A personality! The one who is following God’s ways, does what the new pastor requests, even if it opposite of how the old pastor does things! We aren’t to control others to get them to do things our way, we are to be servants as Christ was, and serve with a quiet and gentle spirit (1 Peter 3:4).
My conclusion here is this, if you are hearing whispering or have sudden thoughts of anything that is against God and His ways, reject it and get into the Word of God and become stronger in Him, and don’t allow the evil one who “prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour” (1 Peter 5:8), to fool you into sinning, or even worse, harden your heart against God. There will always be conflict in the church, but if we do as the Word says, we are being faithful servants of God. Don’t give up your own salvation by walking away from the church family, because there are hypocrites or judgmental people among them. Instead, pray for those people, approach them and talk of what God’s word says in what you saw them or heard them do. Then follow the steps in Matthew 18: 15-17 if they don’t respond with repentance. Satan knows that if he can get you away from the church family, he has a much better chance of deceiving you, but if you do what the Bible says, you will become stronger, one who can’t be fooled into lies! “Put on the full armor of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil” (Ephesians 6: 10-18). Have a blessed day all!